My definition of family includes all close kin of my parents. I have a large family and while superficially we are immensely congruous & cohesive; various differences do exist within.
When necessities & individual egos within a family reach colossal stature a clash is imminent; such a conflict in turn would lay the entire family in ruins. Yearning for wealth triggers mostly all feuds. It’s justly said, “Money is the root of all evil”. You can comprehend some reasoning whereas others are better classified as idiocy.
It is difficult to maintain a neutral stance when a dispute begins. Any appeal for tranquility is often lost on deaf ears. With raised voices consumed with malice, malignant words are bellowed which are always regretted afterwards. For those who hold an unbiased position this serves as a disturbing spectacle unfortunately they are unable to interfere and impede the bickering. Occasionally the spats are over such trivial issues that you feel like weeping over the depravity of those involved. God having created us never promised a trouble-free & effortless life instead he reiterated to turn to him in our hour of need and he will unquestionably assist us. Our despondency makes us utter absurd gibberish. I have heard such sacrilegious phrases, which have stunned me and compelled me to solicit forgiveness on their behalf. When matters get out of hand I withdraw to solitary seclusion underneath the night sky to find my peace.
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"God having created us never promised a trouble-free & effortless life instead he reiterated to turn to him in our hour of need and he will unquestionably assist us"
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Part of our being human is that we make mistakes, no body is perfect. Sometime we make mistakes without deliberation and intention. But sometime we deliberately sin and do wrong to others. It is said, “to err is human and to forgive is divine.” Both parts of this statement are very true. As human beings we are responsible, but we do also make mistakes and we are constantly in need of forgiveness. And in Islam we have two aspects of forgiveness:
a) Allah’s forgiveness;
b) Human forgiveness.
We need both, because we do wrong in our relations to Allah as well as in our relations to each other.
Furthermore, its important to remember that in since from the time jahiliya, where wives were mistreated and girl's buried, Islam ordered the institution of family to make blood ties.
Allah says:
“O people! Beware of your Lord who created you from a single soul and created from it its mate and spread from those two many men and women and beware of Allah in whose name you ask one another and [beware of] the wombs. Verily, Allah is ever watchful over you.” Qur’an (4:1)
haha..ok u got me going...i know that family's can be difficult, but if we are our forgiving and dictate our lives/actions w/ sabr, we will be successful in overcoming difficulties, iA. This is what seperates us from the other "westerners."
masalaam...very nice blog brother.
sorry i kind went nuts there :P haha..
~ m ~
salaam
mnm, great to be seeing you commenting more!
Your right, its extremly difficult to remain neutral, since both sides are equally important to us.
Sometimes its often difficult to stick with the truth in such situations becuase of the conseuqneces, yet we have to rememeber that this life is transitory and that even though we may suffer by siding with the truth the truth always surfaces, eventually.
i find blogging quite nice when things go hap hazard, its nice becuase people aren't directly involved and you get honest advice!!
anyway i should stop getting on my high horse and preaching and actually practise!
ws
Sometimes I get tired of all the slander around me. It’s very hard to concur with wrong views even if they are by those close to me. We all have a level within us, a level, which judges how much malevolence, we can withstand. It’s decent & moral to react once that level is breached and cowardice to maintain silence and let the transgression persist.
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